It can also show up in the bedroom. Of course, plenty of fat people can and do have amazing, fulfilling, glorious sex and relationships — eventually, I certainly did. Are you into humiliation? Obviously, I turned them down. There are just so many people, though. Fat people are supposed to be jolly? I accepted this all as normal. I met him off Match. My cousin encouraged me to go back after that incident. She was always better at dealings with the opposite sex, or so I thought.

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I was a covers-pulled-up-to-my-chin, lights-off, minimize-jiggling-however-possible lover. I hated my nude body. I specifically chose strategic lingerie that hid my belly and covered most of my ginormous booty, and I wore fishnet stockings not to be sexy, but to hide all my cellulite and to try to minimize my huge thighs. Then, I met a partner who finally called me out on it. He lit a ton of candles, ripped the covers off of me, and just stared at me. He stood there at the edge of the bed for what felt like an eternity, just staring at me, and when I got the courage to look him in the eye, I saw nothing but adoration, love and a hunger for my body staring back. He took off my tights, my garter belt, my lingerie, and loved me, just as I was.
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For the first time in nine months, I was completely naked in front of a man, and the first thing he wanted to do when he took my dress off was turn out the lights. I've had many conversations with friends who do body-positive advocacy like I do, and they know what it's like to be single and do this work. When I first started out writing and roaring , I was dating a man who was extremely in love with me. I absolutely think that when I was already sleeping with someone who found me irresistable, body confidence came much easier. When we broke up last fall, I realized that he had seen me gain 30 pounds throughout our relationship and my overlapping eating disorder recovery. Now, even much heavier than that, I haven't been with a man since. And I've had a lot of time to think. I have days when I think, Damn, Trusty, any man would be lucky to explore this body. These days often come after my morning Zumba, or after hours of teaching tap dance. These are the days I am reminded of the muscle and the strength beneath the layers of fat, and I'm confident that my size does not define me.